I often get asked “are you busy?” when meeting with someone.
I am sure you do too. It seems to have replaced the good old fashioned “hello”.
How To Respond?
If you say yes, you hear “ah that’s really good”, if you say no, you can see the signs of pity and an “oh dear” look on the questioners face.
I find it fascinating that being “busy” has somehow become a badge of honour and a measure of success. With the expectation from the person asking the question, that if I reply yes, then I must be doing well.
Busy = Failure?
In my life, if I felt “busy”, I would personally feel that I am not doing well, even failing! Fact is, I don’t want to be busy. Mainly because what I’ve noticed is the less busy I make myself, the more successful my life has become.
Obviously my personal definition of “busy” and “successful” may not be yours, but I would encourage you to consider a few things when contemplating how to respond the next time you are asked “Are You Busy”? And indeed, whether you want to be …..
Further thoughts on the matter
We all innately know that most business meetings are rubbish, yet we still go to them. What’s that all about?
We feel upset when we see a parent shout and scream at the child they claim to love more than anything else in the world, just because they are so tired from their day to day life. Is being tired more important than showing our love?
I doubt anyone lays on their deathbed saying they should have spent more time at work! More time with their loved ones perhaps, but not work.
When was the last time you got your To Do List, done? It never, ever gets completed. That’s part of life so ease up on yourself about it.
Time is our precious resource, yet we squander it each and every day with “busy work” that really isn’t that important in life.
Is Being Busy All Bad?
Don’t get me wrong, if you are truly in alignment with your “busyness” then all is well. But more often than not, people aren’t.
You can tell they aren’t as they complain to themselves, plus anyone who will listen, about just how busy they are, how they always have so much to do and how they never have time for themselves or the time to do what they want to do.
It doesn’t have to be that way. I’m pleased I learned this early on in my life, without having to go through any major distress or illness to give me the nudge to take closer notice.
When writing this blog post, a client and friend comes to mind as a role model. He is very busy with his business and loving every day of it. As a result, relationships in all areas of life are improving and he is thriving. This was something he has learned to do as it wasn’t always that way!
I found this video on You Tube which seemed to fit:
A closing thought: Every person on this planet has the same 1440 minutes in each day. It’s how we chose to use that time that dictates the life we create.
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